EP 63 | No Contact: Healing or Avoidance?
What happens when cutting someone off starts to feel like proof that healing is taking place?
In this Thinking Through episode, Jonathan Kindler examines the growing cultural movement toward going no contact with family and asks when distance is wise—and when it becomes avoidance. Beginning with the Wall Street Journal story of Shoshana Rubli, this episode explores why estrangement can bring real relief, why relief is not always the same thing as healing, and how psychological language can sometimes turn complicated relationships into simple diagnoses.
Blending current research, counseling insight, biblical reflection, and cultural observation, Jonathan looks at David and Saul, Joseph and his brothers, Matthew 18, Romans 12, Proverbs 27, 2 Thessalonians 3, Romans 5, and Ephesians 5 to distinguish forgiveness, reconciliation, trust, and access. He also explores the difference between a boundary and a wall—and when ongoing harm may make greater distance necessary.
Whether you’re considering no contact, living with family estrangement, or trying to love someone who continues to cross established lines, this episode invites you to move beyond slogans. To tell the truth. To restrain harm. To leave room for repentance where possible. And to faithfully steward the life God has entrusted to you.
Sometimes distance is necessary.
But the goal isn’t merely to become unreachable.
The goal is to become faithful.
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